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Welcome to Living with Eagle Community!

Our mission at Ben’s Friends is to ensure that patients living with rare diseases or chronic illnesses, as well as their caregivers, family, and friends, have a safe and supportive place to connect with others like them.

Eagle Syndrome is elongation of the styloid process which is actually calcification of the stylohyoid ligament. The s-h ligament runs from the tip of the styloid processes to the lesser horns of the hyoid bone. The hyoid bone also has two greater horns. Hyoid bone syndrome arises from the greater horns becoming elongated or thickening such that the hyoid bone loses some of it’s movement & begins to press on some of the same nerves that elongated styloid and / or calcified s-h ligaments irritate.

The hyoid bone can also become “tethered” by calcified stylohyoid ligaments. Under normal conditions it moves freely up and down and a little side to side when we swallow, talk, laugh, cough, sneeze, breathe, etc. When it loses the ability to move as it needs to, pain results.

This site is a virtual community intended to be a safe place for patients and family members as young as age 12, to visit for information, discussion, venting and mutual support. Members come from many backgrounds. Some have a strong religious faith, and others no faith; some are children and others adults, rich and poor, graduate educated or taught by life. Our common denominators are that we share a life journey, and we try to help each other.

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How is Ben’s Friends Different from Social Media and Other Support Sites?


Our mission at Ben’s Friends is to ensure that patients living with rare diseases or chronic illnesses, as well as their caregivers, family, and friends, have a safe and supportive place to connect with others like them.

We’re interested in you as a person, and in your struggles as a rare disease patient.  But we don’t want to know your name or where you live. We won’t even allow you to use your real name when you register for one of our communities. Because when it comes to medical things, anonymity is important in our googly universe.  Your information is never shared, and your activity never tracked by adware.

When Ben’s Friends asks for the country and region you live in, that’s in case your fellow members can recommend local resources and help, and so everyone knows what kind of medical system there is where you live.  That’s important when it comes to giving and getting support. Because we are all about support, and we’re all in this together.. 

Ben’s Friends: Safe and Supportive. 
And anonymous to keep it that way.


Why create an account?

Posts on the different Ben’s Friends communities can be read by anyone on the internet. You can browse through the different topics and find most of the information you’re looking for but there are many things you won’t be able to do unless you create an account. These include:

Making your own posts. Although you’re able to find useful information just by reading other members’ posts, you might still have a lot of questions in your mind. Either you want to start a new topic to talk about them in detail or you want to reply to a comment on a thread. These won’t be possible unless you create a new user account.

Viewing other members’ profiles. Member profiles include information about the country or region they are from, whether they are a patient or a caregiver, and details about their disease and treatments. Maybe you came across an interesting post and you want to learn more about the member. Or maybe you’re looking for members who are from the same country as you. Having a user account allows you to see other member profiles and find information that may be relevant.  

Sending private messages. Aside from being able to post publicly and commenting on a thread, having a user account also allows you to send private messages both to other members and moderators. In case you want to discuss a topic only with a specific person, this is possible by sending private messages when you have created your account.

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Latest Discussions

  • I cant feel my Styloids sticking in me at all
    by sparky on August 15, 2022

    I have been diagnosed with ES confirmed by a CT scan indicating calcified styloids down to C2 vertebrate. Went in for intraoral op and had Tonsils removed but the op was then aborted because the surgeon had second thoughts. I have now got an appointment to see MR Axom at Cambridge to see what he says (120 miles away from me). My question for fellow sufferers is ” I cant feel my Styloids sticking […]

  • Considering investigating ES further, but is it worth it?
    by LG18 on August 14, 2022

    So I’ve posted here a couple of times a few months back. I’m yet to go down the diagnosis rabbit hole and subsequent surgery, but I’m almost certain I have ES. I have the majority of the classic symptoms, and can feel both styloids either side in my tonsil area. I can also feel the styloid under my jaw on the left side — something I know other members here have also been able to do. […]

  • Appointment with Dr. Bunnell
    by morgan on August 14, 2022

    I had my consultation with Dr. Bunnell a few days ago. I really liked him; he explained the surgery thoroughly and answered all of my questions. He said I’ll likely have a 2 week recovery. He did a scan of my neck while i was there and it showed that my left side is longer than my right, but he is going to use my scan from Mayo Clinic (because it is more thorough) to see exactly how long, what […]

  • Unexpected positive effects after surgery?
    by vdm on August 13, 2022

    I’ve heard that some people became calmer, got rid of shoulder pain, POTS… What other ear/throat unrelated improvements have you noticed after the surgery? Anyone with allergies, digestion improved? Better kidney function (they are innervated by vagus nerve)? Improved vision? Improved lower back pain (mechanism would be because of changed gait/sitting biomechanics)? 2 posts – 2 […]

  • Hopefully I have a better day today
    by Michael123 on August 12, 2022

    Yesterday was a bad day for me.I have alot of pressure lower back of my head.I had major ear pain and face pain also pain while turning head . I had neck pain also alot of brain fog.I used ice pack it help a little. 11 posts – 4 participants Read full topic

  • You might find a specialist for your rare disease in our Recommend a Doctor pages
    by BF_Writer on August 11, 2022

    Sascha Gallardo – November 1, 2021 Rare disease and chronic illness patients need to consult specialists or doctors who are very familiar with their condition. But especially in the case of rare patients, it’s not that easy to find someone who has many years of experience treating patients who have the same rare disease. Since Ben’s Friends is a network of patient communities, the majority […]

  • A&D waiting times in the US
    by vdm on August 11, 2022

    Just wondering, how long would you approximately need to wait to see an emergency doctor in the States since the moment you entered the hospital? 3 posts – 3 participants Read full topic

  • New member and would love some help and advice for jugular variant
    by Stac on August 10, 2022

    Hi everyone. I am new to this site and vascular eagles in general. I have gotten a lot of information over the months, especially from this website(thank you), and thought I better chime in and ask some questions as I try to navigate what is causing what… My symptoms started long ago in 2003 when I was 17 and unfortunately we haven’t gotten to the bottom of it yet. I became totally bedridden […]

  • Post surgery update, support, and motivation
    by Dakotank on August 10, 2022

    So, first off, I would like to say thank you to the wonderful people who frequent this forum! When I discovered this group around two months ago I was terrified. I had endured symptoms dating back to 2013 and they had reached a point where I had found myself seeking answers and care once again. Luckily for me a radiologist had made a point to highlight the styloid process being exceptionally […]

  • Preparing for Your Doctor’s Appointment
    by BF_Writer on August 10, 2022

    Sascha Gallardo – October 13, 2020 Getting the most out of your consultation with a doctor for a rare disease is already challenging. Now that we are also dealing with the Covid-19 pandemic, the challenge has been doubled. Considering the difficulty of getting an appointment and the risks associated with going to a hospital and being exposed to the virus, it is important to be well prepared […]